The "Let it out" Thread

[OneBun]

I'm sorry to hear that MsInterpret. I went though watching my father-in-law progress with cancer throughout his body. He became so small as he came close to the end of his life. He had been such a strong man and I was so close to him. Those were hard times and still strongly impact me today. It's hard to watch a close family member go though such pain. It can leave one feeling helpless. I can only imagine the pain you're going through right now, you are in my thoughts. Hugs to you

[Frantic Freddie]

Well I've been on GH for quite awhile...but never really discussed much.
But there are some members, mostly the mods whom have been pretty awesome.
Anyways, my mom had ovarian cancer a couple years back and had to go through chemo.
We thought it was gone, but it came back and for awhile the doctors didn't know where it was.
Now they think it's in her bones. And my mom doesn't want treatment
And the doctors referred her to a hospice.
They are going to do scans to see if it is....I'm hoping and praying it's not there.
I really feel she needs a second opinion.
So it makes me more upset that she doesn't want to try...especially for my daughter who is 9.

You have my utmost sympathy,I know cancer all too well (not me,family & friends).

I'll second what Kzin said,treatments are getting better all the time,there's always a chance.

[MsInterpret]

Thanks so much OneBun and Frantic Freddie!

I'm really trying to stay strong for her. I can tell she's very down about it and I feel like laughter and being happy is powerful therapy in itself, and it's the only thing I can give her along with my infinite love. Even though I wish she would reconsider her decision.

I respect it, but I'm very upset and saddened about it.

EDIT:

I need to find out if a bone marrow transplant is something she will need, because I'm going to be all in it to donate.

[Frantic Freddie]

Good for you MsInterpret,you're a brave person,from what I understand those can be painful.

I just got a call from the dermatologist regarding my 5 biopsies,3 are OK,they can treat them but for 2 of 'em I have to see a specialist,he's gonna cut another big chunk out of my left ear,good thing I wear my hair long

I think one of the most insensitive & downright damned rude thing anyone's ever asked me was,when my wife had breast cancer & was scheduled for a mastectomy back in '00,was "Are you going to divorce her now?"

I don't remember who it was,I vaguely remember that it was a woman & that's why that person's front teeth aren't permanently imbedded in my right fist.

[MsInterpret]

@Frantic Freddie

Yes I heard it is painful. But I'd go to hell and back for my mom, after all she did bring me into this world.

I think sometime this week, a nurse is going to my parent's to see if she'll need a hospice. I'm hoping she won't.

The good thing though, she said her back and breathing are no longer bothering her. Still stressing to her to get a second opinion. For some strange reason, I do no trust this doctor's opinion at all.

I'm so glad that the other 3 were okay....And what's an ear right?! It's not like you need it

And wow! That was really rude and disgusting for someone to ask something like that. People can be very insensitive and ignorant at times.

I guess people forget that part of the vow of marriage, "Through sickness and in health...till death do you part".

You're a strong man for sticking by your wife and not putting your fist through that naysayer's mouth.

[Frantic Freddie]

Thanks MsInterpret,we'll be been married 33 years come June 1st

I know what you mean about taking care of your mother,mine moved here almost 4 years ago after my stepdad passed,I lucked out & bought her a house just 200 yards away from mine & up until late last year my full-time job was taking care of her,she's a lot better now.Good thing I'd had enough of the real estate business (got out before I ended up in a standoff with the cops for feeding a client or 3 to the coyotes ) & was able to devote the time to her.

Life's funny,I never expected to be in this position,but my 3 brothers couldn't have done it so they're happy that she's happy.

[clover3leaf]

So sorry MsInterpret and Frantic Freddie, to hear of your troubles. I hope you continue to find a way through. I hope your mum, MsInterpret, can find the strength to have more treatment. She obviously has a wonderful, caring daughter.

I too have had ovarian cancer and also endometrial cancer - and still visit the oncology team every 3 months for checks, so I do understand. So far, I am doing well and remain positive.

Folk on this site have been very supportive and I had some very comforting messages from a couple of the mods - you're all amazing.

Bless you all

[Frantic Freddie]

Thanks clover but I have no troubles,my wife is healthy,my mom is well enough to threaten to beat me when I sass her & so what if I acquire a few more small scars in exchange for my health.

I too have had ovarian cancer and also endometrial cancer - and still visit the oncology team every 3 months for checks, so I do understand. So far, I am doing well and remain positive.

I think you & my wife would get along just fine

[clover3leaf]

Glad your mother keeps you in line Frantic Freddie and that you are doing fine.

I think you & my wife would get along just fine

Say hello to your wife from me then

[tipper75]

So sorry MsInterpret and Frantic Freddie, to hear of your troubles. I hope you continue to find a way through. I hope your mum, MsInterpret, can find the strength to have more treatment. She obviously has a wonderful, caring daughter.

I too have had ovarian cancer and also endometrial cancer - and still visit the oncology team every 3 months for checks, so I do understand. So far, I am doing well and remain positive.

Folk on this site have been very supportive and I had some very comforting messages from a couple of the mods - you're all amazing.

Bless you all

I need to say a special Thank You

[MsInterpret]

So sorry MsInterpret and Frantic Freddie, to hear of your troubles. I hope you continue to find a way through. I hope your mum, MsInterpret, can find the strength to have more treatment. She obviously has a wonderful, caring daughter.

I too have had ovarian cancer and also endometrial cancer - and still visit the oncology team every 3 months for checks, so I do understand. So far, I am doing well and remain positive.

Folk on this site have been very supportive and I had some very comforting messages from a couple of the mods - you're all amazing.

Bless you all

Thanks so much clover3leaf

Your words give me tons of hope and light.

You're just as amazing!

[clover3leaf]

regarding recent posts:

Bless you Tipper - it's me saying thank you. You were there when I needed someone and it can't have been easy for you either.

At that time it was so difficult to express what I was going through. I needed the privacy but needed to 'talk' too. Another mod and yourself seem to understand that. It's great to be more open now though. Timing is important. I realise this is a public site and there are times when it's helpful to be anonymous but hopefully it will be fine and if I can encourage someone else, then that's great.

Thank you MsInterpret sweet person.

[tipper75]

regarding recent posts:

Bless you Tipper - it's me saying thank you. You were there when I needed someone and it can't have been easy for you either.

At that time it was so difficult to express what I was going through. I needed the privacy but needed to 'talk' too. Another mod and yourself seem to understand that. It's great to be more open now though. Timing is important. I realise this is a public site and there are times when it's helpful to be anonymous but hopefully it will be fine and if I can encourage someone else, then that's great.

Thank you MsInterpret sweet person.

You're welcome, and thank you It is still not easy

[Yvonne]

You're welcome, and thank you It is still not easy

Pfff...I wonder if it ever will become easy

I am glad that there are threads like these where you can let out what is troubling you and I am also glad for the Private Message option so you can talk to someone more privately, if needed.

Big hugs to all that need one

[clover3leaf]

dear Tipper and Yvonne - hugs for you both

It probably doesn't get easy and everyone's experience is different isn't it, but I for one am grateful for you both. and for everyone on here who makes it such a special forum.

I've been trying to escape from room escape games, but find they relax me - do you think it's escapism therapy?