The "Let it out" Thread

[RBS]

Turned the TV on this morning and these were the 3 consecutive "news" stories

Russel Brand punches a paparazzi allegedly trying to shoot a photo up Katy Perry's dress

Paris says it is my cocaine

Arrest warrant issued for no show Lindsey

Who the heck cares? No wonder I play games so much.

[EscapeGirl]

Thank you, RBS!! I feel ya. I could care less about the "celebs" and their troubles. They're just people like the rest of us; just with more money!

[New1000]

I've just been bullied from school hard.
I've been drowning myself in video games and soda, but it doesnt get rid of my sadness.
And its almost the end of Term 3

[Lilliputt]

I'm sorry to hear that New Do you have any grown ups around you where you live that you can talk to about it?

[RBS]

Hi New. Anything happening at school that affects you and makes you sad needs to be reported. There are lots of adults as Lilli suggested who are there to prevent that. Let them know. You stay positive and strong and keep in touch.

[EscapeGirl]

I've just been bullied from school hard.
I've been drowning myself in video games and soda, but it doesnt get rid of my sadness.
And its almost the end of Term 3

I'm sorry dear. That's awful! Just really try to remember that kids at school can be really cruel, but don't let it be a reflection of how you see yourself. That's very important. And sometimes kids just bully because you're different than them, or they're jealous of you. Both those things are things to be proud of. Uniqueness makes you...YOU and makes you special!! And if they're jealous, that's a problem they have with themselves because you're more intelligent, better looking, better at sports, computers, or whatever the reason they feel they need to be jealous of you... It just means you're good at something. In any event, follow Lilli's and RBS's advice. Talk to a teacher, and aide, or someone about it. It should absolutely NOT be tolerated. Keep your chin up and know that you're a good guy. Please keep us posted.

[Mati]

Hi guys! Just got home from the New Year party! I actually managed to survive it without falling asleep and I'm still feeling fresh... Happy new year everyone!
Anyway, I'm here to tell you my story about my first love and how we broke up and other stuff like that which came to mind while having this party. *wall of text warning!*

It all began in 2006. My father was having a reunion with all of his high-school friends in some mountain area. There, I met all kinds of people whom are very close friends now. And there she was, my future girlfriend. I started off pretty badly with her, as I was young and pretty wreckless back then. But as time passed and we spent more time with trips, picnics and others, we got closer and closer, until one trip when we accidentally told each other that we like each other. At first we didn't take it seriously, but then we asked each other if we were serious (sorry for the repetition). Later on, my family and her's went on a ski vacation in Austria. They didn't knew how to ski, but we do so we taught them the basics and then eventually got them an instructor. After we skied half of the day, we retreated into our hotel to relax and have a snack or even dinner and after we, the kids, finished dinner, would go up in her apartment to play on her Wii. After a few hours, she confessed to me that she really liked me and gave me a kiss on my cheek. It was such an overwhelming sensation that I was wordless for a good 10 seconds after that. I barely managed to pull out a faint "wow" and then compliment her for her kindness and all that stuff. I haven't felt better in my life. Furthermore, we even held hands which made me fell divine. Pure bliss just ran through me that night.
One year later, we went on another trip. I was sitting behind her in the coach and when she pulled out her personal diary I saw something with my name. Being a curious idiot, I actually sneaked up to her backpack to check out what she had wrote there about me. What I saw there confirmed me that she was indeed, in love with me. I only read the first page of her diary, and nothing more was written on it. As I wasn't a big enough jerk for doing that, the next day I told another friend of mine who came with us what I've done. And guess what: he told her about it. Next thing I know, she wishes for me to die in pain and she barely considers the relation between us a friendship. For the next 3-4 times I met her she was like that... Now she's OK and she even laughs at my jokes. Every touch from her makes me fell good, even if it's just our sneakers being squeezed up against each other in a big crowd, for example. Now for the part I want help with: So, before I'd go home after this year's party, I though to ask her to give me a hug, just to make me have a nice start in the new year. But I couldn't. I was too ashamed. Ashamed of what? I don't know. I simply couldn't do it.

Now I want a bit of help from you guys: what can I do to ask her my ex-girlfriend for a plain, simple hug the next time I get to speak to her in private? That hug would make me feel much, much better if I manage to pull it off.
BTW, Congratulations if you made it this far without skipping anything!

[Mistery]

The first thing that pops in my mind is: How did you react after she discovered that you had read in her diary? This was really a stupid thing to do (as you have found out), and that hurt her because you invaded her privacy. Did you apologize to her since then, did you admit that you recognize how wrong it was, and that it was a betrayal of trust? Or did you just blank it out, and let time pass without talking to her about it? You didn't mention that.

I think before you can think about a hug, it would be very important to apologize to her, and show your sincere remorse, so that she can heal. You mentioned that you were too ashamed, and you didn't know of what. I suspect that you're ashamed because of that incident of reading in her diary. If you're friends, she should know about your bad feelings. Unless you can talk about it sincerely, there will always be a wall between you two. She needs to find trust in you again, before you two are close enough to hug. In case she refuses to talk about it, then the wall is still too high, and you'll still have to put a lot of work in regaining her trust.

[Mati]

Yeah I tried talking and apologizing to her and as far as I remember and she was pretty understanding and accepted my excuses. I tried to bring her back a few times since then but I think she'll keep it just a good friendship and nothing more between us.
In my opinion, I think she almost fully healed after that accident, as now, as I said in my previous post, she acts normally and even laughs at my jokes (I suppose one wouldn't find another one's jokes funny if they were mad at that person, am I right?). I do think we're on a good track and we could even slowly get back together, but not as high as we were.
Dang man... Love is harsh sometimes...

[Mistery]

Yeah, it's not easy
I see, yes you may be on a good track Well, acting normally and laughing at jokes is a good sign, but this doesn't necessarily mean that the mistrust and hurt are fully gone deep inside, I can't judge that. Don't try to push it hard, just tell her how much you appreciate your friendship. You'll see how it develops, I can't tell you whether she will ever be ready for a relationship after the disappointment, you'll just have to see.

[Mati]

Yep, very true. I was thinking while posting the other post that time will decide our faith and we'll just have to wait and see.
I'm glad someone decided to talk to me about this, as I kept it inside since then and told no one about it. Well, actually I just told my friends that we broke up and didn't gave them a reason (they didn't ask for one anyway >_>).
Every time I see her I think about that act of stupidness and how we could've been so happy without it.

[Mistery]

We all make mistakes, but it's important to learn from them.
Good luck - either with your friendship with her, or a new beginning - whatever will happen

[Mati]

Thanks, kind and good Mistery!

[CornishMaid]

Am I the only one needing a hug? Lost mumpsy July 2010 feeling blue, mothers day looming

[Mistery]

Awww, I'm so sorry for your loss

Have a huge hug dear