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**Mistery** · 10-19-2007, 01:01:47

Awww, Skellisin

I can imagine how tough it is for you. Getting through a breakup, and seeing your daughters when they can visit you must be already a difficult thing. And everything connected to all that hurts.
It must be difficult to know about a new relationship - especially if you learn about that from your kids. And it hurts, too, if your friends decide to keep in touch with your partner and not you.

I would be glad to give you an advice to solve the problems, but I can't.
But remember, having great times with your wonderful daughters is the most important thing in this situation, so I hope that this will be possible in the future, too.

I wish you a lot of "coolness" and also strength to go through this painful time, big warm

from me.

**Skellisin** · 10-19-2007, 01:04:41

Do you know that feeling, when you want to punch or kick something, but you are smart enough to know that the inanimate object will not feel it, I will, and things can be expensive to replace, and steam rolls out from your ears?

I do. (but I am smart enough to know not to do it) *thanks God for imagination*

Thankyou Mistery *crying

*

I am alright.... I just didn't want to think this was over.

**Mistery** · 10-19-2007, 01:17:23

Yes, I think most of us know that feeling - I can tell for myself that I do.
But as you say it will hurt you, and cause more problems.
However, sometimes it's good to find a way to let your anger out. It's not good to gather it, because this might be damaging for your health, or it can come out in situations which can have bad consequences.
Hmmm.... let me tell you what I was taught by a wise woman in the beginning of this year: I was so full of anger, and I didn't want to let it out because I was too afraid of the power that could come with it. She then took me to a river where it had a lot of big stones, and I had to throw them into the water and shout and let it out. She brought me bigger and bigger stones, lol. At the end I was very tired and calm

So this just as a simple example that there are ways to also physically deal with anger in a controlled way without destroying things or hurting somebody.

EDIT
I've just seen your edited post (we had some storms on da Hood, and I couldn't access the forum).
I know that you didn't want to think/believe that it was over - this is exactly what I've felt when I read your post...
Here another big warm

for you

**ShiningStar** · 10-19-2007, 04:32:52

Skellisin I'm really sorry that's happen to you! but i'm sure in the long run things will work out for the better for you, in some cases you have to go through some hard times or things for good things to happen (believe me I know) hope things get better for you!

**EscapeGirl** · 10-19-2007, 06:43:27

Originally posted by Skellisin View Post

Do you know that feeling, when you want to punch or kick something, but you are smart enough to know that the inanimate object will not feel it, I will, and things can be expensive to replace, and steam rolls out from your ears?

I do. (but I am smart enough to know not to do it) *thanks God for imagination*

Thankyou Mistery *crying

*

I am alright.... I just didn't want to think this was over.

Oh, Skellisin.

I wish I could give you a hug in real life, and give you a shoulder to cry on...

I can't say I can relate completely, because I've never been in your exact situation before, but I can say I have had my heart broken into a million pieces, and I know the pain, and I know how hard it is.

And I know the anger.

I like Mistery's idea about the pebbles. Another great release of the pent up energy and anger (besides crying) is working out at the gym, or going for a long run. (Just be sure to stretch first. I once went to the gym because I was ticked, and injured my shoulder pretty badly.) I hope that knowing that we all care about you here on GH helps. I hope that you can get through this without anymore additional pain. You're a good guy.

I'm a PM away if ya need to talk/vent/yell/or cry.

**Sandbox** · 10-20-2007, 00:11:03

Skell

I sent you a PM. Not only am I your online sis, but also your friend on and offline. I have big shoulders

I am a bit under the weather, but you know how to contact me. (check the pm)

**Elni** · 10-20-2007, 03:43:25

I haven't been in here for couple of days and learn all those bad news. Mistery I am so sorry about your husband. How is he? I really hope he will feel better soon and everything will be as they were b4 that horrible night. I know that when one disaster hits then everything go wrong, but I also believe that at the end something good it will happen, just keep you head and hope up.
Where I live right now there are so many trouble makers (especially from youngsters). When my Bfriend goes to work at the night and he is late to come back (whenever I stay at his place) I get worried. There are one killing nearly every week here and that is a not good sign.
I wish I could help you somehow. The only thing I can do is pray for the best and you your husband and kids to be together and leave the bad nightmare behind.

@Skell
I am so sorry for you too my friend. It hurts when breaking up with bfriend or gfriend, but it must hurt 10 times more when there is a married and kids in the middle. I am not good making people feel better, but I hope you will be able to see your angels.
I cried as well whenever I broke up with my bfriend, and especially when something very bad happened during that time (at least for me). I was crying for months believe me. What helped is taking long walks to places that I like to visit and the only thing I done was to look at the horizon. And the other thing was to get a job asap so I could somehow stop thinking, and be at a place where was no room for tears. You are lucky because where you are you have at least one good friend that can hug you and talk to you. I didn't. I had to call my friends back to Greece just to hear their voices.
I hope that everything will go well for you my dear skell.

**Mistery** · 10-20-2007, 05:42:51

Thank you Elni

My husband is doing good under the circumstances. The doctors are content how things are going. He should be conscious again when I visit him this afternoon. I just hope that he won't feel too awful and have pain. I'm very nervous, but also look forward to talking to him.

**EscapeGirl** · 10-20-2007, 07:36:04

@Mistery...I'm very glad you get to see in this afternoon, my friend, and I really do hope that his pain is not horrible.

You and your family are all in my thoughts.

**Brimful-Asha** · 10-20-2007, 13:35:05

hey mistery just read what happened to u and i cant express how saddened i am by the news but at least ur husband is on the road to recovery which is a goodn sign...my prayers and well wishes are with u and ur family always

**ForeverJoseph** · 10-20-2007, 15:52:31

well the dance sucked.i had no1 2 dance with and a gurl i like was there and i coulda asked her 2 dance but...i was 2 scared she`d say no.

well heres my heart rite now:</3

**Hitman** · 10-21-2007, 00:08:58

Originally posted by Skellisin View Post

Do you know that feeling, when you want to punch or kick something, but you are smart enough to know that the inanimate object will not feel it, I will, and things can be expensive to replace, and steam rolls out from your ears?

I do. (but I am smart enough to know not to do it) *thanks God for imagination*

Thankyou Mistery *crying

*

I am alright.... I just didn't want to think this was over.

Ryan, my friend! I'm deeply sorry when I hear what you're going through! Maybe I'm not really an adult, but I know what you mean and I'm sorry to hear that. If there's ANYTHING I can do? ...maybe cheer you up with something, then go ahead and PM me freely.

**perhonen** · 10-21-2007, 15:24:28

How is your husband, Mistery?

**Mistery** · 10-21-2007, 16:08:01

He's awaken now, gets a lot of painkillers and tranquilizers through infusion, and still has tubes. He has a shortage of breath, and in order not to get a feeling of panic because of that, he's kept calm. He can't and shouldn't speak at this moment, but I was able to talk to him, and he has used a kind of sign language

He'll stay in intensive care for the next time (we don't know how long exactly, it depends on his condition) to monitor his condition and breathing. The biggest danger would be an infection, so that the room where he is, is aseptic, and everyone has to wear a steril coat and a mask.
So all in all he's on his way of getting better, and we hope that there won't be any complications

Thanks again for all your support

**Sandbox** · 10-21-2007, 16:35:05

@Mistery What wonderful news. I am so happy for you and your family. At least you are able to have some type of communication with your hubby. Before long he should be home and you can spoil him rotten

Hang in there, things are looking up

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